11 Songs About Miscarriage (Pregnancy Loss)
A miscarriage is one of the most painful things a mother can ever experience and one is left with just the thought of what could have been. If you are looking for some songs to cope with the grief, here is a list of songs you should try out.
1. Ed Sheeran – Small Bump
This is the fifth single from his debut studio album and in the song, he sings about his close friend’s experience of a miscarriage after five months of pregnancy. He sang it from a first-person perspective. Speaking to Glamour magazine on the matter, he had this to say:
It was quite a difficult subject to tackle. I wrote it from their perspective. It was my perspective looking on them to begin with. It’s quite a touchy subject, so I wrote it from the perspective of actually being the parent.
2. Beyonce – Heaven
The song is about finding strength after losing someone to death. The song caused speculations that the song was about the loss of her first child due to miscarriage. In her documentary Life Is But A Dream, she hinted that the first thing she did after the miscarriage was go into the studio and write the saddest song she had ever written.
Beyonce stated this about the song, “‘Heaven’ is about death and finding the strength in knowing that someone had an incredible life and that giving you some type of closure.”
3. Daughtry – Gone Too Soon
The song is about losing someone, particularly to miscarriage. Speaking to Glamour magazine, Daughtry had this to say about the song:
The song is about realizing that today could have been the day that someone would be blowing out the candles. It just hit me pretty hard. I remember playing the demo for my brother, and I turned around and he was bawling. I didn’t realize that my brother’s wife had suffered a miscarriage years before. It was a pretty emotional moment.
4. Disturbed – My Child
The song is about the miscarriage of David’s child together with his girlfriend. He sings about how he was preparing to be a father only for the opportunity to come to an abrupt end.
5. Beyonce – Heartbeat
As part of her HBO documentary, Beyonce opened up about the loss of her child with her husband Jay Z. This was her first pregnancy. She picked out names and started envisioning what her child would look like. When she flew back to New York to get her check-up, there was no heartbeat. She took to the studio shortly after to record some new material which she described as the saddest song she had ever written.
6. Lily Allen – Something’s Not Right
7. Lily Allen – Take My Place
The song is about the emotional trauma Lily endured after realizing that her baby George had died. She had been admitted to the hospital 28 weeks into her pregnancy to try and save the baby. They managed to delay her giving birth for a week and a half but she started crowning. The midwife realized baby George had already passed away. She shared her routine months following as she battled PTSD from miscarriage:
I’d go to bed with Sam and I’d wait for him to go to sleep. Then I’d go down to the kitchen, open a bottle of red wine and drink it while smoking a packet of cigarettes. I remember feeling numb, so numb. And doing whatever that version of crying is when you don’t make a sound but become sodden with constant tears.
8. Idles – June
The song is about Joe Talbot’s daughter Agatha who was stillborn in June 2017. This was a very stressful time for Joe and his partner. They were blessed with their second daughter Frida Ray in 2019 but she also had similar issues.
Agatha’s heart rate dropped three times. They transported her to hospital but she died en route. And the same thing happened this time, Frida’s heart rate went. It was the most terrifying f***ing moment of my life: how can this be happening again? But we were already in hospital, and they got her out. It was magic.
Joe Talbot didn’t intend on releasing the song at first since it was carrying shame of grief and feeling like one is a burden. He was feeling so dysfunctional and angry at the universe for something he had no control over
9. Yellow Card – Ten
The song is about Ryan Key’s then-girlfriend and their choice to abort their unborn child. The difficult decision came back full circle for Key and has been difficult to swallow. Lyrically, he sings about what his life would have been as a father and the different accomplishments his child would have had.
10. Hillary Scott – Thy Will
This is their debut single in their debut album Love Remains. It is an open letter to God where Hillary asks God for a sign and explanation that He has a plan for her despite her troubles and pain. It was inspired by an experience that had left her heartbroken. She said:
I’m holding it close because I want people to have a chance to hear the song and not hear it through my story yet. I want everyone to hear it through theirs. Even just through writing this and it now being out, I’ve gained so much healing from what I’ve been through, and I’m hearing so many stories just about what other people have been through, and that’s what I don’t want to miss. I feel like I’m not supposed to share my part yet until others have been given the opportunity to put their own lives into the words.
11. Gary Barlow – Let Me Go
Back in 2012, Gary and his family announced the loss of his daughter Poppy who was stillborn. This song was written from Poppy’s persepective. In an interview, Gary stated this about it:
It’s funny with “Let Me Go” because I didn’t want to have a sad album, I really didn’t, and I tried for it to not be, I made a real effort for it to not be a sad record. I wanted it to be a celebrationary record because that’s where we’re at in our lives with the whole thing that happened, and it makes me really happy when I see people going crazy to that song, because it really should be a celebration, because in some respects it’s alive, that record and those lyrics and what it relates to, and it keeps a life and a flame in the whole thing, and I love that it has got two elements to it. I love that on one hand you think ‘this is the most fun ever I’ve had to this record’ and then when you start going beneath that, you see what it’s saying — it’s not my voice, it’s someone else’s.